We're Dan and Julie Ihara, husband and wife, and certified Real Estate Wealth Advisors based in Hawaii. For the past two decades, we've worked with families navigating the most emotional and financially significant decisions of their lives. We've seen what works, and we've seen what tears families apart.We've also been through these emotional and financial hurdles ourselves, not just as advisors helping other families, but as sons and daughters watching our own parents age.I'm the youngest of six siblings. When my parents' health started declining, the family fractured over what to do. Everyone had an opinion, but no one had a framework. The tension that followed could have been avoided with one honest conversation years earlier.Julie walked a similar road, advocating for her mother's care and watching how quickly family dynamics shift when health changes the equation.We wrote this book because we don't want your family to learn these lessons the hard way.