The author describes how her excess weight is not only a physical challenge, but also an emotional and mental struggle that has affected her entire life. The excess weight affected her self-image and the way she stood in the world. The author explains how her neurodivergent brain plays and played a significant role in her relationship with food and her body. She describes how she often became overstimulated and how this affected her eating behavior. But that this way of processing stress is also inherent to a neurotypical brain. The author discovered that her struggle with her weight was only a symbol of her struggle with herself. Only when she got to know herself in all facets with shadow sides, all her acquired beliefs and found her loving Core, there was room for deep insights. Only then was a definitive change possible. The insights she shares are applicable to everyone who struggles with her or his excess weight. It is time that we look at excess weight with different eyes.