You know those guys that run up and down a basketball court wearing stripes, blowing a whistle and get yelled at by coaches and fans? Well, one of those guys is my guy. The Official Wife is the story about a being married to a basketball referee, having four small children, and finding my way as a wife and mother. It is humorous and heartfelt as well as a real life love story. It also gives an insight into the life and career path of a referee. Details are given about how these guys get hired and what kind of yearly schedule as well as a behind the scenes look at the world of officials.Being married can be difficult at times but when you are married to a ref (or coach) it can get even harder. I had no idea what I was really getting into when I got married to my ref and it has been ten years of getting adjusted. Throwing our small kids into the mix just made it even more interesting and way more entertaining. Along the way I learn about myself and my courage and somehow find my own strength.